I wonder if succubus parents sometimes yell at their daughters on school mornings. “Young lady, you are NOT leaving this house until you’re dressed like a slut!”

Shannon and I both had a cold last week that hit us hard. Lots of sleeping and tea seemed to fix it; he got it worse than I did. It seemed like I got it first and gave it to him, given the timing of things.

Now we’re sick AGAIN. With a different cold. He got this one yesterday and passed it to me. So we’re both home, totally sick. I dragged myself to the store for chicken soup. Once again, he’s got it worse than I do. Definitely a very different cold, and this one is even nastier.

Man, this sucks. At least it’s not swine flu.

A friend pointed me to this set of photos from the war in Afghanistan.

Truly amazing.  Many of these are brilliant, but I think the most striking one shows all the soldiers sleeping in their fighting-holes… but it looks like they’re lying in graves.  The children playing in terrible conditions–prison, refugee camps, wherever they were–also stayed with me for a long time.

For people like me who’ve never seen combat, these pics drove home to me how ugly battle really is and how dangerous the conditions are.  I can’t even imagine myself in battle; I just don’t think I could handle it.  I’m curious what those of you with military experience think of these pictures.

Today’s Google logo makes me very happy. 🙂

Over the weekend, a young woman was raped either in or near the San Jose Fairmont Hotel. I’m fairly certain she wasn’t associated with the con.

I saw the police officers handling the case, and I felt they treated the victim poorly. I wrote a letter to the police department and the mayor’s office, and here’s what I said. If they write back, I will post a follow-up.

*****

Dear Chief Davis and Mayor Reed:

I’m a Bay Area resident who visited San Jose last weekend. I’m writing because I was appalled by a police/victim interaction I witnessed in your city.

On the morning of November 1, 2009, I was attending a convention in the Fairmont Hotel. When I entered the lobby around 8:15 AM, I noticed several police officers, all male. Nearby sat a young woman who looked upset. An officer reassured me that everything was okay, and at that point I went to talk to a friend standing nearby. My friend and I chatted at length, attempting to give the woman some privacy. During this time, the woman started sobbing. I noticed she was alone; the officers mostly stayed away from her. A few people stopped to see what was wrong, but the officers told them to leave. At this point, my friend mentioned that he’d overheard the woman say she’d been raped. I couldn’t believe that they’d left a rape victim sitting in a busy lobby– for probably half an hour or so.

I approached the woman and asked if there was anything I could do. An officer told me that I couldn’t talk to her because he was conducting an investigation. I asked the officer if I could give the woman some Kleenex, which he allowed. Then I told the officers that I understood they needed to investigate, but they really needed to take the woman somewhere private, where passersby wouldn’t stare at her and add to her suffering.

I’m writing this letter because the officers’ handling of the incident was unacceptable. Here’s why:

1) As a random passerby, I shouldn’t have seen anything except perhaps an officer or two. The victim should have been treated with dignity and taken somewhere private. I’m not sure how long she was in the lobby, but it had to be around half an hour. The officers only took her somewhere else after I suggested it. So this poor young woman, feeling violated and terrified, had to sit in a high-traffic public place and try to pull herself together, which added more trauma to her experience.

2) A female officer should have been on the scene immediately, preferably one trained in rape counseling. The victim was traumatized and isolated. After a rape, it can be hard for a victim to trust men or feel comfortable with them. She needed mental and emotional support–yet she was denied this. I had to ask permission to give her Kleenex, which felt absurd. If the officers needed to question her, I understand that–but they should have provided her professional support or at least a female officer to sit with her. Failing to do so will have repercussions for her recovery and her mental health.

That’s why I found the handling of the situation unacceptable. In short, officers need to be trained to respect rape victims and to ease post-rape trauma.

I’m copying this letter to the Chief of Police, the Mayor’s office, and posting it to my website. A number of people have agreed with my concerns, and want to know what you’ll say. I look forward to your response, and will post it to my website as a follow-up. Thanks for your time.

Sincerely,

Vylar Kaftan

I found out what happened with the dead guy in the carport.

One of the tenants actually knew him; he was their best friend’s brother. Possibly he was at one of the many parties which happen in this complex at strange times. As I’d guessed, he died of an overdose — a combination of prescription drugs and alcohol.

He was 23 years old.

Dear internet,

I’ve noticed something odd.

Cars used to come in many colors. Red, blue, green, black, white, silver, gold, and so on. Cars still come in lots of colors, but the frequency has changed.

I’ve been paying attention here in the Bay Area, ever since Shannon and I went car shopping in January. And this is weird.

Fully 40% of the cars around here are silver–yes, almost half. And another 30% are neutral–mostly white, a few black, and a handful of brown-gold. Meaning that 70% of the cars around here are neutral-colored. And that’s not even counting the really deep blue or green cars that look black if you’re not paying attention.

It seems to me that as recently as 5 years ago, there were a lot more colors in cars. Especially red.

Those are guesstimates, of course, but I’m curious about this. Is this the new trend in cars for the last decade? I’ve heard rumors of the “silver-gray clones” in vehicles, because silver cars hold the best resell value.

And is this local to the Bay Area or is it true elsewhere in the country? It might be a Bay Area thing. Folks here love neutrals and earthy colors. Often on BART, I’m the only person in the whole car whose jacket isn’t neutral-colored.

What are car colors like where you live?

I’m at the Pizza Hut. (what?)
I’m at the Taco Bell. (what?)
I’m at the combination Pizza Hut and Taco Bell.

…in the spot where the apartment manager found the dead guy yesterday, one of my neighbors left flowers.

I thought that was sweet. I observed a moment of silence for whoever he was.

Whew, I can finally announce this.

There’s a new magazine in town, folks. Published by Sean Wallace of Prime Books and edited by John Joseph Adams, Lightspeed Magazine will feature “all types of sf, from near-future, sociological soft sf, to far-future, star-spanning hard sf, and anything and everything in between.”

I’ve got a story in the first issue. It’s called “I’m Alive, I Love You, I’ll See You in Reno.” It’s a multi-century love story about two lovers who just can’t connect.

I’m excited about this new market and honored to help establish it. Given Sean’s work building Fantasy Magazine and JJA’s experience as slush editor for F&SF, I’m confident that Lightspeed will be terrific.